Just quick note on why some notes end up on the blog in the letters section and the rest go to the home page. So, the scoop is that the site was created with the idea that it would be a place for letters people had written to friends or family as a way of coming out. In the meantime we have also received a lot of other inspirational and heart warming letters and stories of other formats. We would like to keep the main notes section true to the original idea; but there is always room on the site whatever else you want to send our way! As always, feedback is appreciated on this stance as it also our intention that this be a community driven site.

Encouragement to move forward…

This is such a hard thing for me to discuss, however I feel this is a start. I am a mid 30’s typical married guy with a loving wife, two kids and a huge mtg…lol

From the outside many people see us all as being a happy family, leading the typical American dream.
However, deep inside I am a much different person than what people see. I lead a double life as strait married husband, and bi-sexual male.
I urge you all, whoever reads this in the future to think deeply about the life you live, and the plans you make. Be true to yourself, and the rest of the world will
need to come second…

Aunts and uncles, parents and friends weather behind you or not, will still wake up in the morning and go about their busy lives weather you are gay, strait, black,
white, or Bi..

Dont be afraid to be who you really are.

I love my wife and children, and would not give them up for the world. But a broken heart filled with lies can do terrible things to ones sole.
In a world full of decete and hatred, it is easy to go along with the “popular” way of thinking and acting.

I encourage you all to live from your heart, be yourself, find love, run barefoot on the beach, gaze at the sunsets…..with the person who is right for you and makes
you happy.

If no-one ever replies to this letter, atleast I will know that hopefully someone has read it, and it has helped them to be the person to which they truely deserve to
be…Happy…

Me

Welcome to BiPass. My thoughts, my feelings, and occasionally my rants. I’m 22, Bisexual, and hopelessly in love, with a man; yep a wonderful, smart, handsome man. I have been with this man for 8 years, I couldn’t be happier. This relationship has created an interesting path for my life. I have always sensed that I was attracted to women, and yet I have been attracted to men also. I seem to have looked at them both equally in a sexual way. I have, however, always dated men; and I intend to marry and spend my life with a man. I just get along better with men. I came out to my boyfriend about 6 years ago. I am lucky that I have a secure and loving boyfriend. It wasn’t easy to tell. I had denied the way that I was for a long time, and even thinking about telling him was daunting. But I did tell him and he was amazing: not only was he ok, he was supportive, and communicative, without judgment. He loves me.

That is why I simply cannot understand what is going on in our country at the moment. Most people spend a life time trying to find what I have with him. Yet there are people that are trying to deny others with love like mine the right to express and share their love and lives. There aren’t many people who know I am bisexual; so nobody questions the validity or strength of my relationship with my boyfriend…we are being pushed to marry and procreate as we speak. I wonder if that would change if people knew I have sex with girls. I wonder if it would change if they knew my boyfriend knew about it and supported it and has encouraged my to truly be myself. Saying that a loving, healthy, committed relationship is a travesty to the fine institution of marriage based on the couples sexuality is a crock . It is a fallacy of the worst kind. Who are we to judge someone else’s relationship? Who are we to say who can be bonded in love, finance and law? Yet there are quite a few people in this country who seem to think GLBT marriage will disturb or destroy the sanctity of marriage. Well I will ask this: What do an over 50% divorce rate, prenups, and The Bachelor do for the sanctity of marriage? How will equal rights for all people and the ability to be beholden and bonded to the person you love harm the sanctity of marriage beyond was is already being done? Beyond that, how does the relationship of strangers effect the strength and love of your relationship? Do these people have answers? Please, give me answers. Give me an answer that justifies this denial. No? Couldn’t come up with one? Didn’t think so.

~Liv